Resilience

With the coming of autumn, many members of the Young Adult Group face transitions: the start of college, grad school, and gap years; the start of teaching or new jobs; promotions. Such change is almost always accompanied by some level of uncertainty and anxious butterflies. It was an opportune time to discuss insecurity and resilience. …

Hospitality

The Arabs used to say, When a stranger appears at your door, Feed him for three days before asking who he is, Where he’s come from, Where he’s headed. That way, he’ll have strength  Enough to answer. Or, by then, you’ll be  Such good friends  You don’t care.   [...]   No, I was not …

Self-Regard

This week’s conversation focused on self-regard, which we strove to distinguish from self-worth. Though we did not pinpoint the difference, we agreed that self-regard, meaning “to examine oneself again,” is something we practice while self-worth is more of a feeling. Self-worth is often derived from our assumptions about how others see us. It often shifts …

Why We Show Up

As is often the case, the most poignant part of our last Young Adult Group meeting for me was the meta-conversation at the end. During this time, I reflected that I didn’t resonate with the earlier parts of the conversation when we discussed the likelihood of free will and contemplated mortality. I said I was …

Making Decisions

Thursday’s conversation considered, among other topics, the concept of free will. Some felt incapacitated by the idea that we might not be in charge of our own destinies. However, we noted that the fixation on free will is a fairly Western phenomenon. Eastern cultures are more likely to ask “Is this choice meaningful? Does it …

The Gift of Pain

Though this last young adult group centered mostly around pets, what I dwelt on later was our discussion about seeing pain as a gift. Members shared their experiences with chronic illness and dyslexia and the lessons they learned. Eventually, someone asked if anyone struggled with the phrase “the gift of pain.” At the time, I …

Compassionate Conflict

At young adult group, we talked about the exhaustion of being in an environment where you’re the only one with your set of values and in which others do not engage in an open, curious, and compassionate way. How do we live out our values in a sustainable way? How do we balance restoration with …